Signs of Emotional Unavailability: Hiding Texts in a Relationship
The Situation
"She hides texts from the kids' dad but leaves her phone face down"
The Brutal Truth
She’s hiding communication from her kids’ dad to avoid conflict, which suggests she’s not transparent. Protecting someone at the cost of honesty is a huge red flag—trust is being compromised here.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might text her constantly for reassurance or interrogate her about the situation, believing that more communication will solve the issue. But this isn't healthy and undermines trust.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you feels the need to protect others’ feelings instead of prioritizing your own honesty and trust?
✨ What To Do Next
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