Why Bringing Up Past Mistakes in Arguments is Toxic
The Situation
"He brings up every past mistake during new arguments"
The Brutal Truth
His behavior reveals insecurity and a lack of accountability. Instead of addressing current issues, he unsettles you with past mistakes, using them as manipulation tactics. This is about controlling the narrative and avoiding his own shortcomings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel the need to appease him by apologizing or by seeking reassurance constantly, which only further fuels his negativity and control. It undermines their self-worth and perpetuates the cycle of conflict.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What pattern do you notice in your relationships when it comes to addressing conflict? How does it affect your sense of self?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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