Why Hosting Holidays Alone is a Red Flag in Your Relationship
The Situation
"His parents expect me to host every holiday even though we don't live together"
The Brutal Truth
He’s putting the burden of family expectations on you without commitment, showing a lack of respect for your autonomy. This indicates he’s not valuing your input in the relationship and allows his family to dictate your role.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
Panic and agree to host, fearing rejection or conflict. This is wrong because it compromises your comfort and boundaries for someone who isn't fully on board with you.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What are my boundaries when it comes to family involvement in my relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
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