Understanding the Red Flags of Inconsistent Dating: He Disappears After Reaching Out
The Situation
"He reaches out every few weeks then disappears again"
The Brutal Truth
He’s breadcrumbing you—a tactic to keep you interested without any real commitment. He’s not invested but wants to keep the door open in case he gets lonely. This behavior reflects emotional unavailability and avoids taking responsibility for genuine connections.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might obsessively reach out or overanalyze every interaction, desperate for validation. This is wrong because it undermines your self-worth and pushes you to chase someone who isn’t fully invested.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do I need to establish to protect my emotional health in dating?
✨ What To Do Next
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