What to Do When He's Intimidated by Your Success: A Guide
The Situation
"He said he's intimidated by my success"
The Brutal Truth
His intimidation is a reflection of his insecurities, not your problem. He may feel incapable of matching your achievements, which indicates he's not emotionally mature enough to handle a strong, successful partner. This is a red flag for your relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might downplay their achievements, thinking it will make him feel better. This is a huge mistake; you should apologize for nothing that makes you successful!
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does my partner’s reaction to my achievements say about their self-worth and our compatibility?
✨ What To Do Next
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