Understanding Invasive Behavior: Is It Gaslighting?
The Situation
"She invades my privacy and says I'm hiding something if I object"
The Brutal Truth
He's deflecting legitimate concerns about his privacy by accusing you of being controlling or untrusting. This manipulation is designed to maintain his control over the relationship while making you question your own feelings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or try to prove their trustworthiness, losing sight of their own needs in the process. This is wrong because it shifts focus away from his toxic behavior and keeps you stuck in a loop of self-doubt.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do you need to establish to feel safe and respected in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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