Is She Manipulating You? Signs of Smart Spending or Toxic Behavior
The Situation
"She returns items after wearing them and calls it smart spending"
The Brutal Truth
Her claiming that returning items after wearing them is 'smart spending' reveals a deeper issue: she may lack responsibility for her actions and is treating relationships like transactions. This mindset can lead to emotional inconsistency and manipulation down the line.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might rationalize this behavior, thinking it's okay to overlook the potential red flags or trying to convince themselves it won't happen to them. This mindset is toxic because it leads to enabling unhealthy patterns instead of seeking healthier relationship foundations.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does this behavior trigger in you, and how does it reflect your self-worth and expectations in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
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