Understanding Manipulation in Relationships: Guilt and Expenses
The Situation
"She manipulates me with guilt when I ask about expenses"
The Brutal Truth
She knows how to twist your feelings, making you feel bad for asking about money. Instead of addressing the issue, she uses guilt to deflect responsibility and maintain control over the relationship dynamics. This isn't love; it's manipulation.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might apologize and back off, thinking they’re being unreasonable. This is wrong because it enables toxic behavior and invalidates their own needs and concerns. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve clarity and respect in communication.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What behavior are you willing to tolerate that undermines your self-worth?
✨ What To Do Next
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