Navigating Expectations: When Your Partner Wants You to Mentor Their Ex
The Situation
"She expects me to mentor her ex about dating"
The Brutal Truth
This guy is being passive-aggressive. He’s not just uncomfortable with her asking; it implies he feels threatened and sees her ex as competition. He’s probably trying to avoid conflict by deflecting responsibility onto her instead of addressing his feelings directly.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might agree to mentor the ex out of fear of conflict or rejection. This is wrong because it compromises their self-worth and boundaries, reinforcing unhealthy dynamics and ensuring they stay in a situation that doesn't serve them.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do I need to establish to prioritize my own emotional well-being in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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