Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating: Bad at Texting Yet Social
The Situation
"She said she's bad at texting but texts her friends constantly"
The Brutal Truth
She’s not bad at texting; she’s just prioritizing her friends over you. Her behavior shows she’s selective about whom she invests time in, reflecting a lack of interest or commitment towards your relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might bombard her with messages, seeking reassurance of her interest. This is toxic because it undermines their self-worth and fosters dependency on her validation instead of trusting their intuition.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it look like for you to set standards where your time and attention are equally valued?
✨ What To Do Next
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