Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating: Flirting but Not Interested
The Situation
"She flirts with me then says she's not interested"
The Brutal Truth
She's playing with your emotions—showing interest through flirting, then pulling back to keep you guessing. This signals emotional unavailability and a lack of genuine intent. She's not ready to commit or engage seriously.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to win her over by overtexting or seeking reassurance, constantly looking for signs that she might change her mind. This is unhealthy, as it places your self-worth in someone else's hands instead of valuing your own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What past experiences might be influencing how you interpret mixed signals, and how can you learn to prioritize your own needs in dating?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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