Why Comparing Your Parenting to an Ex is a Red Flag
The Situation
"She compares my parenting to her ex's constantly"
The Brutal Truth
Constantly comparing your parenting to her ex's means she's unresolved with her past and uses you as a benchmark instead of appreciating you as a parent. This is unhealthy; it's about her insecurities, not your abilities.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to overcompensate by proving they're a better parent or seeking constant validation, which only fuels her comparison and makes them feel inadequate.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does it say about my self-worth when I'm being compared to someone else? How can I establish boundaries to protect my value?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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