Why Comparing You to His Ex-Wife is a Major Red Flag
The Situation
"He compares me to his ex-wife whenever we disagree"
The Brutal Truth
When he compares you to his ex-wife during disagreements, he's deflecting responsibility and revealing his insecurities. Instead of addressing issues, he's living in the past, using it as a weapon to undermine your worth.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to over-apologize or please him, thinking it will convince him to choose them instead. This is wrong because it diminishes their self-worth and keeps them in a toxic cycle.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to demand respect in all your relationships, starting with yourself?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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