When Your Partner Expects You to Pay for His Kids' Activities
The Situation
"He expects me to pay for his kids' activities"
The Brutal Truth
He’s prioritizing his needs over yours and wants you to foot the bill for his responsibilities. This behavior indicates a lack of respect and understanding of boundaries, as he's looking for someone to subsidize his parenting rather than stepping up himself.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to comply, convincing themselves that this will earn them affection or approval. This is the wrong move because it reinforces the belief that love requires sacrifice at the expense of one's own needs and boundaries.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does this situation reveal about your own boundaries and self-worth in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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