Why Your Partner Going Through Your Phone Is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He goes through my phone but won't let me see his"
The Brutal Truth
He's controlling and untrusting, thinking he can invade your privacy while guarding his own. This double standard reflects deep-seated insecurities and a lack of respect for boundaries. You're entitled to your privacy, and his behavior shows he doesn’t see that.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might stay quiet, suppressing their discomfort in fear of provoking conflict. This is wrong because it reinforces his controlling behavior and compromises your self-worth. You deserve to voice your concerns without fearing the consequences.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How would I feel if a partner respected my privacy as I respect theirs?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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