How to Identify and Handle a Partner Who Shuts Down During Conflict
The Situation
"He avoids conflict by shutting down completely"
The Brutal Truth
He's emotionally unavailable and prefers to avoid confrontation rather than communicate. This means he's incapable of handling issues and prioritizes self-preservation over relationship health. You're left feeling unheard and undervalued.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might chase after him, pleading for communication or reassurance, thinking that if they can just explain their feelings enough, he'll open up. This only reinforces his avoidance and underlines your own insecurity.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would your boundaries look like if you didn’t fear losing someone who can’t handle conflict?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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