Why It’s Toxic When Your Partner Relives Past Arguments
The Situation
"She brings up everything I've ever done wrong in arguments"
The Brutal Truth
She’s weaponizing past mistakes to control you emotionally. This is manipulative behavior masked as conflict resolution. It's a tactic to deflect responsibility rather than genuinely resolve issues, ensuring you feel guilty and on edge.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might obsess over their partner’s feelings, apologizing repeatedly in hopes of soothing her anger, which only exacerbates their own insecurity. This is toxic because it reinforces unhealthy patterns instead of addressing the real issues at hand.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What past patterns are you repeating in relationships that keep you feeling inadequate?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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