Why Planning a Future Too Soon in Dating is a Red Flag
The Situation
"She wants to plan our entire future after three months"
The Brutal Truth
She's rushing into future plans to fulfill her desire for security and validation, but it reveals anxiety and possessiveness rather than genuine connection. This behavior signals potential emotional unavailability and a need for control.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to reciprocate feelings or engage in future planning to appease her, ignoring their own needs or discomfort. This is dangerous because it can lead to loss of self-identity and breeding resentment.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you feels like you need to rush into future plans to feel secure, and how can you redefine that need?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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