Why Promises of Change Mean Nothing in Dating
The Situation
"He said he'll change but never does"
The Brutal Truth
When he promises to change but never does, it means he lacks accountability and is unwilling to put in the effort. His words are just empty promises, revealing a deep-seated disregard for your feelings and needs.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling tighter, hoping that by demanding change or proving their worth, he might finally transform. This is dangerous; it keeps you in a cycle of unfulfilled promises instead of focusing on your self-worth and needs.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to prioritize your boundaries over empty promises of change?
✨ What To Do Next
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