Why Your Promotion Shouldn't Threaten Your Relationship
The Situation
"He says my promotion will ruin our relationship"
The Brutal Truth
He's insecure and afraid of being outshone. By projecting his fears onto your success, he's indicating he values status over partnership. This is not about your promotion—it's about his own shortcomings and jealousy.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to downplay their achievement or seek his constant reassurance, fearing they’ll lose him. This perpetuates unhealthy dynamics and places your worth in his hands instead of celebrating your own successes.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of my success feels threatening to insecure partners, and how does that reflect my own boundaries and needs in love?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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