She Asks for Rules That Weren't Discussed: A Red Flag
The Situation
"She asks me to enforce rules I didn't help create"
The Brutal Truth
This means he's avoiding accountability and is unwilling to engage in healthy, mutual relationship dynamics. He's passively rejecting responsibility for the relationship, which is a toxic pattern that sidesteps growth and collaboration.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel pressured to comply and enforce the rules, striving to keep the peace. This can lead to self-neglect and resentment, reinforcing unhealthy dynamics instead of standing up for their own needs and boundaries.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does it reveal about your self-worth if you're willing to enforce rules you didn’t agree to?
✨ What To Do Next
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