Should You Pick Up Your Partner's Kids Even If You're Not on the Custody List?
The Situation
"She expects me to pick up her kids though I'm not on the custody list"
The Brutal Truth
He's implying that it's unreasonable for her to expect him to take on parental responsibilities that aren't his. This shows a lack of respect for boundaries and an unwillingness to take accountability for the situation.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might agree to pick up her kids, even if they feel uncomfortable, thinking it will please her or secure their place in her life. This isn't healthy; it undermines their own boundaries and reinforces unhealthy dynamics.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do I need to establish to feel truly valued in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
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