Signs You're Dealing with Gaslighting in Dating
The Situation
"She said I'm imagining things but I know I'm not"
The Brutal Truth
He's dismissing your feelings by suggesting you're imagining things. This is a classic form of gaslighting, where your reality is undermined to maintain control. He wants you to doubt yourself instead of addressing the issue at hand.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try harder to explain their feelings or become overly accommodating, thinking if they just communicate better, he'll understand. This is wrong because it shifts focus away from his dismissive behavior and makes them responsible for his reactions.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
If your best friend told you this story, what would you tell her?
✨ What To Do Next
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