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Why Saying Sorry But Repeating Mistakes Is a Red Flag

🚨Red FlagToxicity Score: 7/10
#red-flags#commitment-issues#emotional-unavailability#boundaries

The Situation

"He said sorry but keeps doing the same thing"

The Brutal Truth

His "sorry" is just a way to keep you on the hook while he continues harmful behavior. It shows a lack of respect and accountability. You’re not a priority; he’s just maintaining the status quo without real intention to change.

❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)

An anxious person might start over-apologizing, trying to prove their worth, or making excuses for him. This is wrong because it shifts the accountability away from his behavior and places it on your need for validation.

💭 Something to Reflect On

What would it look like to prioritize your emotional safety over his temporary apologies?

✨ What To Do Next

Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.

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