Why a Partner Who Wants to Split Bills But Never Offers to Pay is a Red Flag
The Situation
"She said she wants to split bills but never offers to pay"
The Brutal Truth
She’s saying she wants equality, but her actions show she expects you to cover the costs. This is a sign of selfishness or emotional unavailability, as she may not value accountability in the relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize for bringing it up, or avoid discussing it altogether, thinking they can change their partner's behavior. This is unhealthy and validates the disrespect they're experiencing.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does my willingness to accept unaccountable behavior say about my self-worth and what I deserve in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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