Why Splitting Costs Evenly Is a Red Flag in Dating
The Situation
"He insists on splitting costs evenly when he earns double"
The Brutal Truth
He wants to seem fair and egalitarian, but this reveals a lack of generosity and respect for your needs, showcasing his unwillingness to acknowledge the power dynamics in the relationship. He’s comfortable taking advantage of your desire to make things fair.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might feel compelled to cover more costs or justify him to feel better about the inequity. This behavior perpetuates unhealthy dynamics and will keep you feeling undervalued. Choose self-respect over appeasement.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do my spending habits in relationships reveal about my self-worth?
✨ What To Do Next
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