Is Talking About a Future Together on the Second Date a Red Flag?
The Situation
"She talks about our future together on the second date"
The Brutal Truth
She might be rushing things, wanting to create an illusion of depth or security early on, possibly due to insecurities or a need for validation. It's a sign she's projecting her desires onto the relationship instead of letting it develop naturally.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel compelled to match her intensity, leading to self-sacrificing behavior or unrealistic expectations. This can mask true feelings and create pressure, instead of allowing natural growth in the relationship.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
How does my relationship with time influence my dating choices and feelings of security?
✨ What To Do Next
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