Why Spending Tax Refunds on Fun Instead of Debt Is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He spends tax refunds instead of paying debt"
The Brutal Truth
His priorities are skewed. Instead of tackling financial stability, he chooses immediate gratification. This reflects irresponsibility and a lack of foresight, indicating he may not be ready for a serious relationship or commitment.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might justify his actions, thinking they can help him change with enough love and support. This is toxic because it places their worth in fixing him instead of valuing their own needs.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does his financial decision reveal about your priorities and boundaries in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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