Dating Red Flags: When He Follows Thirst Traps and Calls You Insecure
The Situation
"He follows thirst traps but says I'm insecure"
The Brutal Truth
His habit of following thirst traps while labeling you insecure is a classic manipulation tactic to deflect accountability. He wants to control your emotions while indulging in behaviors that undermine your self-worth. His actions reveal a lack of respect for your feelings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start obsessing over their worth and seek endless reassurance from him, trying to modify their behavior to appear less insecure. This is harmful, as it shifts the responsibility onto you instead of addressing his disrespectful actions.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
How would your self-esteem change if you stopped allowing others to dictate your worth?
✨ What To Do Next
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