Dealing with Trust Issues from a Partner's Past: What to Do
The Situation
"He said he has trust issues from his ex but takes it out on me"
The Brutal Truth
He's using his unresolved trust issues from his ex as an excuse to project his insecurities onto you. This is emotional manipulation, and he’s failing to take responsibility for his behavior. Your worth isn't tied to his baggage!
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel responsible for fixing him, trying harder to earn his trust and affection. This is a toxic cycle—it places your value in the hands of someone who isn't ready to heal. You deserve someone who values you unconditionally, not as a remedy for their wounds.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to only invest in a relationship where both partners take responsibility for their pasts without placing that burden on each other?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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