Understanding Control Issues in Dating: Red Flags You Need to Spot
The Situation
"She hides doctor's updates because she wants control"
The Brutal Truth
Her withholding updates is a power play to control the narrative and maintain dominance in the relationship. This behavior reflects deep-seated insecurity and manipulation, treating you as a pawn rather than an equal partner.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start seeking constant reassurance or trying to decipher hidden meanings behind the updates, often leading to overthinking and insecurity. This is wrong because it denies you the respect you deserve and places you in a perpetual state of anxiety.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does withholding affection or information tell you about the value you place on transparency in your relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
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