Understanding Criticism in Dating: When Rest is a Red Flag
The Situation
"She criticizes my desire to rest instead of nonstop exploring"
The Brutal Truth
She's masking her insecurities by criticizing your need for rest, indicating she lacks respect for your boundaries and might fear intimacy. Her need for nonstop action shows a disconnection from her own emotional needs, and that's toxic.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start over-explaining their need for rest, rationalizing themselves or even shifting their behavior to please her. This is wrong because it undermines their self-worth and reinforces the belief that their needs are less important than her expectations.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes I must justify my needs to others?
✨ What To Do Next
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