Understanding Emotional Unavailability in Dating
The Situation
"He said he's just not an emotional person"
The Brutal Truth
When he claims he's 'just not emotional,' he's signaling that he’s unwilling or unable to connect on a deeper, emotional level. This means he might not invest in the relationship or prioritize your feelings, leaving you feeling undervalued and isolated.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might chase after him, attempting to elicit emotions or validate their worth, thinking they can somehow change him. This is wrong because it neglects their own needs and teaches them to settle for less than they deserve.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to prioritize your emotional needs and only invest time in someone emotionally available?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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