Understanding Mixed Signals: When Your Partner Refuses to Plan
The Situation
"She refuses to plan anything yet blames me when things go wrong"
The Brutal Truth
She's placing all responsibility for failures on you while avoiding accountability for her own inactions. This is a toxic manipulation tactic that creates confusion and blame, leaving you in a reactive state rather than empowered.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or try to please her, fearing rejection or conflict. This reinforces her blame-shifting behavior and keeps you stuck in a cycle of disempowerment.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would a loving and confident partner look like for you, and how does this situation align with that vision?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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