When He Says Vows Are Cringe: Understanding Commitment Issues
The Situation
"He says vows are cringe and wants to wing it"
The Brutal Truth
His dismissal of vows shows a deep-rooted fear of commitment. He wants the freedom to avoid accountability, which is a red flag for emotional unavailability. Don't confuse his casual attitude with a healthy relationship mindset.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person would likely chase after him, trying to convince him of the importance of vows, thinking they can change his mind. This is a mistake because it undermines their self-worth and ignores clear signs of his avoidance and lack of commitment.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does your desire for commitment say about your self-worth and what you truly want in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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