Why He Feels Trapped By Making Plans: Red Flags in Dating
The Situation
"He said he feels trapped when I want to make plans in advance"
The Brutal Truth
He’s avoiding commitment and sees planning as pressure. This means he’s not ready for a serious relationship and prefers keeping his options open. Your desire for stability clashes with his need for freedom, signaling a mismatch in emotional availability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to reassure him repeatedly or cancel their own plans to give him space, believing this will make him feel more comfortable. This is wrong because it reinforces his avoidance and makes them prioritize his feelings over their own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it say about your worth if you're settling for half-hearted commitments?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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