Why Long-Distance Relationships Fail: Understanding His Words
The Situation
"He said he can't do long distance after I moved"
The Brutal Truth
He’s using distance as an excuse to avoid commitment. His inability to handle long-distance means he’s not ready for the relationship or prioritizing you. It's a clear signal that he isn't invested enough to make it work.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may beg or plead for him to reconsider, hoping to persuade him to change his mind. This is wrong because it teaches them to chase love that’s not given freely, reinforcing anxiety and insecurity in relationships.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it reveal about your self-worth when someone is unwilling to invest in a relationship with you?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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