Why His Cheating and Blame for Your Therapy Are Major Red Flags
The Situation
"He says I'm the one who needs therapy even after he's cheated"
The Brutal Truth
He’s deflecting responsibility for his actions and gaslighting you into thinking your feelings are the problem. This is a manipulative tactic to avoid accountability for cheating and keeps you doubting your worth.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might stay in the relationship, trying to prove their worth by accommodating him, feeling guilty for his cheating. This is toxic and perpetuates unhealthy patterns.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it say about my self-worth if I accept blame for someone else's infidelity?
✨ What To Do Next
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