Navigating Age Differences and Future Plans in Dating
The Situation
"She wants kids years before I'm ready just because I'm older"
The Brutal Truth
He's deflecting responsibility for his lack of readiness by blaming her age. His priorities might not align with yours, which signals a potential power imbalance. This could lead to resentment and unmet expectations in the relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince him that she's worth the wait and push for compromises, disregarding their own needs. This approach only perpetuates feelings of inadequacy and neglects her right to set healthy boundaries.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes I should change my timeline for someone else’s comfort?
✨ What To Do Next
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