Always Planning Dates? Decode This Red Flag in Your Relationship
The Situation
"I'm always the one planning dates and making an effort"
The Brutal Truth
His behavior shows a lack of equal effort and consideration. It means he's taking you for granted and doesn't prioritize your needs. You're putting in all the work while he sits back, which is unfair and unkind.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might think they need to constantly prove their worth to keep him interested, leading to self-sacrifice and losing their own identity. This is toxic; you deserve someone who meets you halfway without you having to chase them.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it look like if you only committed to partners who actively and equally invested in the relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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