Understanding Blame in Dating: Food Labeling and Accountability
The Situation
"He refuses to label his food then blames me for eating it"
The Brutal Truth
He wants to avoid responsibility for his choices while manipulating you into feeling guilty. By refusing to label his food, he's making you the scapegoat. This is a clear sign of emotional manipulation and a lack of accountability on his part.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or bend over backward to accommodate his needs, fearing that their actions will drive him away. This undermines their own worth and sets the stage for unhealthy patterns.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What patterns am I repeating that lead me to feel responsible for someone else's behavior?
✨ What To Do Next
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