Is Borrowing Money in a Relationship a Red Flag?
The Situation
"He borrows money from me and never pays it back"
The Brutal Truth
He’s taking advantage of your kindness and is disrespectful of your trust. By not paying you back, he’s signaling that he doesn’t value you or the relationship. This is manipulation at its worst, and you deserve way better!
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might keep lending him money, hoping that it will make him like them more or validate their worth. This is wrong because it only reinforces unhealthy dynamics and allows for further manipulation.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you have to sacrifice your financial stability to gain someone's affection?
✨ What To Do Next
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