What to Do When He Broke Up But Wants to Stay Friends
The Situation
"He broke up with me but wants to stay friends"
The Brutal Truth
He’s trying to keep you around as a fallback option while he figures out what he wants. This isn't genuine friendship; it’s a way to avoid fully committing to letting you go. You deserve more than being someone's safety net.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might be tempted to agree to his friendship, hoping it will lead back to a romantic relationship. This is dangerous because it keeps you in a cycle of want and confusion, neglecting your own healing and independence.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you can only be valued in someone else’s life?
✨ What To Do Next
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