Should You Change for Your Partner? Analyzing Toxic Expectations
The Situation
"She wants me to lose weight for photos but won't change anything herself"
The Brutal Truth
He’s demanding she change her body while refusing to look at his own behavior. This reflects entitlement and a lack of empathy. His expectation that she alter herself for external validation reveals deep insecurity and a skewed sense of fairness in the relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to change their appearance or personality to please their partner, thinking that if they’re different, they’ll be worthy of love. This is toxic because it distances you from your authentic self and reinforces unhealthy relationship dynamics.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does this situation reveal about the standards I hold for myself and others? Am I settling for less than I deserve?
✨ What To Do Next
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