Why Changing Yourself for a Partner is a Toxic Red Flag
The Situation
"I feel like I have to change myself to keep him interested"
The Brutal Truth
His lack of genuine interest or commitment makes you feel the need to alter yourself, showing he's not valuing the real you. This isn't love; it's manipulation, rooted in insecurity or control. It's a disaster waiting to happen.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start over-committing, giving up their interests, or seeking constant validation to keep him interested. This is wrong because it leads to losing their true self and creates an unhealthy dependency.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you need to change to be loved, and how can you value yourself more in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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