Navigating Child Support as Self-Care: Red Flags in Dating
The Situation
"She spends child support on herself and says it's self-care"
The Brutal Truth
She’s diverting funds meant for her child's support into her own selfish indulgences and calling it self-care. This shows a lack of responsibility and prioritization, raising questions about her values and stability as a partner.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince her that spending is justifiable, leading to a cycle of enabling toxic behavior. This is harmful because it ignores the responsibility she has towards her child and compromises their worth.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do I need to see clearly about my values when it comes to parenting and partnerships?
✨ What To Do Next
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