What It Really Means When He Says Commitment Makes Him Anxious
The Situation
"He said commitment makes him feel anxious"
The Brutal Truth
He’s using his anxiety as an excuse to avoid real intimacy. This statement often masks a lack of commitment and emotional availability. Instead of facing his fears, he’s pulling away, leaving you in a state of uncertainty.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling tighter, trying to prove they are worthy of a commitment. This is wrong because it only reinforces his avoidant behavior and puts your needs last.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What patterns do you notice in your relationships when someone expresses fear of commitment? How does this reflect your own beliefs about love and worth?
✨ What To Do Next
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