Why He Pulls Away When You Get Closer: Understanding the Signs
The Situation
"He pulls away every time we get closer"
The Brutal Truth
He fears intimacy and is emotionally unavailable. His retreat signals discomfort with closeness and a reluctance to face deeper feelings. It’s not about you; it's his baggage. Don’t chase someone who can’t meet you halfway.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might feel the urge to chase him, seeking reassurance through constant texting or calls. This behavior will only push him further away, making you feel more insecure and anxious when you deserve to be at peace.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you is drawn to someone who can’t handle intimacy?
✨ What To Do Next
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