Understanding Commitment Issues: When He Dates Others but is Scared
The Situation
"He said he's scared of commitment but dates other people"
The Brutal Truth
He’s using his fear of commitment as an excuse to keep his options open. He wants the thrill of dating without the responsibility of a real relationship. You're not his priority; you're just part of his options.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling to him, hoping their affection will change his mind. This is wrong because it undermines self-worth and leads to more pain, as you'll be chasing someone who's not ready to commit.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would dating feel like if you were with someone who openly communicated their intentions and valued your commitment?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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