Understanding Commitment Issues: When Wanting Space Upsets Your Partner
The Situation
"She gets upset when I say I need more time before committing"
The Brutal Truth
His need for more time isn't about you; it's a clear sign of emotional unavailability. His discomfort with your upset indicates he values his own space over your feelings, suggesting he's not ready for a serious relationship or committed love right now.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might plead for reassurance or try to minimize their needs to avoid conflict. This is wrong because it sacrifices their own self-worth and perpetuates unhealthy dynamics where needs are ignored.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What do you believe about your worth if someone can't meet your commitment needs?
✨ What To Do Next
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